Graduating from Grief to Gratitude
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When my business capstone team wore Mickey Mouse ears and presented about Disney+ on Monday, March 16, I had no idea it would be the last time I ever stepped foot in a classroom at 蜜桃导航. In the final five minutes of class, the first coronavirus email arrived, canceling classes for three weeks. Seven days later, what remained of my college career evaporated.
So many things I took for granted were gone: random encounters in the library, gatherings with friends, friendly waves between classes, casual chats in the gym and events around campus鈥攅ven those awkward handshake-or-hug moments, which seem unfathomable now.
I鈥檓 especially disappointed in the abrupt finale to my college experience. I have felt more at home at 蜜桃导航 during the past two quarters than ever before, and it鈥檚 unfortunate that my senior peers and I won鈥檛 get a traditional spring quarter to celebrate how far we鈥檝e come.
While many people globally are devastated by the pandemic, I鈥檓 incredibly privileged to stay at home reading, watching movies and working on classes. While people are losing jobs and stability, I鈥檓 merely losing the opportunity to spend time with friends. Even still, I鈥檓 trying to give myself space to feel the range of emotions that accompany the isolation of shelter-in-place.
But there鈥檚 another side to the pandemic I鈥檝e started to notice. As sadness and anxiety evolve into new routines, I think we have much to learn from this new season.
Winston Churchill once said, 鈥淣ever waste a good crisis.鈥 This crisis has the potential to change us both individually and collectively for the better, though the growth may not be welcome or comfortable.
Hopefully, we will wake up to our interconnected humanity 鈥 there are countless examples of creativity and kindness all over the internet to prove progress on this point.
On a personal level, I鈥檓 finding that the pandemic is revealing the need for increased intentionality with how I spend my time. Without the on-campus community and structured gatherings, staying in touch with friends requires more active effort than before. I鈥檝e found the extra alone time to be an excellent opportunity to read and reflect, but I鈥檝e also appreciated spontaneous calls to friends when loneliness creeps in.
The shelter-in-place has also radically emptied my schedule and thus offered a new way for me to look at time. Our fast-paced culture encourages a view of time as something we efficiently exploit rather than simply exist within. I鈥檓 hoping to practice slowing down and being present to daily life during this strange in-between season.
I hope that we can eventually meander from grief to gratitude, from anger to acceptance. And along the journey, I propose that students take a moment to ponder a seemingly ridiculous thought exercise.
Let鈥檚 imagine that in 10 years you鈥檙e sitting at a dinner party and the topic of the Great Quarantine of 2020 comes up. You say to a friend, 鈥淵ou know, from where I鈥檓 sitting, spring of 2020 was actually one of the most impactful experiences in college. It was during that time that I learned and grew the most.鈥 If that preposterous statement happened to be true in 10 years, why might that be?
Think forward. What would you have done or learned during these three months?
Perhaps you鈥檒l start a new project or hobby. Perhaps you鈥檒l worry less about what others think of you. Perhaps you鈥檒l find delight in something simple that you previously ignored.
Now certainly, the opposite of our hypothetical rosy scenario may be true. You may feel more lonely than any other time in college or life. But imagining a different story is the first step to living it.
I鈥檓 trying to establish a new way of living, and I鈥檓 grateful to be safe and healthy. I鈥檓 saddened by what has been lost and fearful of the global challenges to come. I miss fist-bumps and hugs. But the best routine for spring seems to involve finding a rhythm where creativity, intentionality, virtual connection, and self-compassion can flourish.